Think Only About What You Want
Remember, you become what you think about most of the time. Successful, happy people think about their values and how they can live and practice those values in every part of theirlife every single day. The big payoff is that the more you live your life consistent with your values, the happier, healthier, more positive and energetic you will be.
Responsibility Is the Antidote
The antidote for negative emotions of all kinds is for you to accept complete responsibility for your situation. You cannot say the words “I am responsible!” and still feel angry. The very act of accepting responsibility short-circuits and cancels out any negative emotions you may be experiencing.
The discovery of this simple but powerful affirmation, “I am responsible,” and its ability to instantly eliminate negative emotions was a turning point in my life, as it has been for many hundreds of thousands of my students. Just imagine! You can free yourself from negative emotions and begin taking control of your life by simply saying, “I am responsible!” whenever you start to feel angry or upset for any reason.
This is the time you got stop following and set your own path and leave a trail, because many of life failures are people who did not realise how close they were to success when they gave up. The worst and painful regret in life don’t come from attempt you failure but things you didn’t have courage to do. Key to success is becoming a person of interest, it doesn’t matter what you sell or how you sell it.
“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you”
See Yourself as Self-Employed
From this moment forward, see yourself as the president of your own personal services corporation. View yourself as self-employed. See yourself as being in complete charge of every part of your life and career. Remind yourself that you are where you are and what you are because of what you have done or failed to do. You are very much the architect of your own destiny
Realize That No One Else Is Responsible
The fourth cause of negative emotions, and the worst of all, is blaming. When I draw the “Negative Emotions Tree” in my seminars, I illustrate the trunk of the tree as the propensity to blame other people for our problems. Once you cut down the trunk of the tree, all the fruits of the tree—all the other negative emotions—die immediately, just as all the lights go out on a Christmas tree when you jerk the plug out of the socket.
The third cause of negative emotions is an over concern or a hypersensitivity about the way other people treat you.
For some people, their entire self-image is determined by the way other people speak to them, talk to them or about them, or even look at them. They have little sense of personal value or self-worth apart from the opinions of others, and if those opinions are negative for any reason, real or imagined, the “victim” immediately experiences anger, embarrassment, shame, feelings of inferiority, and even depression, self-pity, and despair. This explains why psychologists say that almost everything we do is to earn the respect of others or at least to avoid losing their respect. The key to dealing with this concern about what other people are thinking is to realize that no one is really thinking about you at all. Most people are so preoccupied with themselves and the details of their own lives that they have little or no time to think very much about others. It has been said, “If you really knew how little others think about you, you would be insulted.”